Wednesday 26 February 2014

Hokey pokey!

Vaccinations are always hard....

I remember the absolute first poke bumling got was the day after he was born... I didn't have the heart(or physical energy) to go with him... So my mum in law and brother went with him... They said he howled poor thing :(

The first poke I went for... I had tears in my eyes... Despite having taken a poke everyday for 8.5 months.. Despite being 30 years old... The thought that my little baby boy was going to get hurt (yes I know it's a tiny little poke ... But have you seen how tiny these babies are?!!) it was too much to handle , for me!! Even his pediatrician couldn't stop laughing at me

But when she did poke his little thigh, twice mind you, he cried sooooo much that all I could do was hold him close to me... Of course he was absolutley fine before we even left the hospital!! 

Since then in the last year he has got about seven pokes I think.. Each time I was braver as was he.... 

For the last three months he didn't have any vaccinations... I had to take him post his birthday... 

Now when he was really small he wouldn't wriggle as much and he had no idea what was coming so the bawling only happened once the poke happened... 

Not this time... This time as soon as I put him on the table he knew... Oh how he knew... A small frown a big pout and next thing I know he has tears in his eyes and a look of complete and utter betrayal!!! 

By the time the poor doc came with the needle our man was howling... And squirming so much it took me and a nurse and the doc to pin him down... 

He cried and he cried.... As soon as it was done I picked him and took him out of the room to distract him.. Luckily this hospital has some cute young nurses who totally cooed and flirted with him enough to make him smile again..,

But as soon as he saw his doc the big pout and frown came out again!! The poor doc... I'm sure all kids come to her laughing and smiling and leave frowning and pouting!!! 

I was talking to her and she said it's going to get all the more tough as he gets older.. Now he has started realising that something not so good is about to happen and starts reacting to it... 

Oh God... Help me!! Being such a scaredy cat myself... How am I going to get thru the remaining vaccinations !!! 

Well I guess that's why we have Aadi!!!!


Birthday bash!

Bumling's first birthday was amazing!! 

We started off with wanting to do something small at home with close friends and family.... But eventually it turned out to be a big bash at a hotel with about 80 of my in laws friends!!!!!!

I guess it's true... Grandparents just can't resist going overboard with celebrating their grand kids....

Personally I wanted something small and intimate.... But I was more than happy with doing it their way.... 

However the only thing that I wanted was that even though there were no kids really at the party, I wanted it to look like a kid's party... 

So for days I thought and thought of the theme... Then I got all my material together and made all the decorations!!! I figured if that's what I love doing and want to do in life... Going all out with my baby's birthday is a great idea!!  

Aadi and I are in love with minions and have always called our little bumling a minion because he looks like one!! 

So from lanterns to the birthday banner to table center pieces to overall decor I flooded the place with minions.... Funnily all the adults loved it!! Some even took home my lanterns!! 

In fact even the birthday bumling was dressed as a minion!!! 



And he had soooooo much fun!! My genius mother suggested carrying his walker... So he had that complete freedom to run around the venue... At one point I actually saw him go to each table and smile at the people at it!! One of my granny's relatives had two kids seven and twelve I think, and they loved babysitting him... That way I could happily attend to all the guests... 


And when we cut that minion cake and sang the happy birthday song... He loved it!!! Gleefully he clapped his little hands and looked around at all the friends who had come to meet him and surprised them all by not crying! 



For the whole month me and Aadi's mum  have been singing the birthday song to him and encouraging him to clap at the end... He loves this song now.. Even today if I sing it he will clap!!!  Also for two days prior to the birthday we have been cutting cakes and singing the song he so was used to it...!!!

And then back to the walker for the rest of the night!! I swear his eyes didn't close till the last person had left the party...as soon as they did however, he passed out!!!! Luckily I had his pram so he slept in there while I could enjoy my dinner!! 

As far as I have been to first birthdays, the kids end up sleeping thru most of it or getting overwhelmed by the guest who come and pinch their cheeks making them cry.... So I was happy to see bumling enjoying his party... Luckily none of the guests were really the cheek pinching kind... Also my darling husband would tactfully keep him out of reach of such guests!! 




We were home by two... Man what a party animal we are creating!!!!

 But the next day he slept at 1:30 in the afternoon and woke up at 6:00!!!!

 My poor li'l Super Happy Birthday Boy!!! 

Friday 21 February 2014

My birthday wishes for you...my baby boy!!!

My baby boy... You are the sunshine in your dad's and my life.... Not for a second could we have ever imagined that we would ever feel soooooo much love for some one apart from each other till you came... And what took us a while to build up.. With you it was literally love at first sight!!! 

On your birthday while I wish you so much happiness and incredibly wonderful joy... Here are a few things that your dad and I have learnt or wanted for ourselves and would like for you to have and to be able to do : 

1. Travel... Travel the whole wide world... And go to new places every time you travel... Meet new people ... Experience their lives... Learn their language... Have their food... It's a big world out there with lots of amazing kind of people..try and meet as many as you can!!!! 

2. Read a LOT! Books are one of the most magical things in the world... They transport you into worlds of amazing things ... Unimaginable things... They teach you about life and friends and relationships that will stay with you forever.... And they will keep your mind creative and your imagination crazy!! 

3. Dance.... It's in your genes!!!! Your dad's a mind blowing dancer and so you will be too... But also dance because it's one of the best expressions of your emotions... For me dancing is letting loose... Not caring about people... But more than that it's about being completely YOU... enjoy the rhythms... Groove to the music... Bob your head sway your hips ...You don't always have to dance well... Dance funny like I do sometimes...  Just as long as you are having fun! 

4. Try everything once... Don't assume things are not good or are scary or are wrong... Try it... Bungee jumping.... A sport .. Public speaking... Everything... Even if you think you can't do it.. Actually especially if you think you can't do it... 

5. Be non judgemental... That's the one quality your dad are I are proud of having.,, no matter who we meet in our lives.... No matter what they do or don't do... We treat everyone the same... And we are open to all kinds of people.... It's good because that way you will know more people! Also remember that everyone has their own shit going on... So if they are a certain way it must be because of something they are or have experienced in life... If you don't like them keep your distance but don't judge them...

6. And lastly follow your dreams....and work damn hard to achieve them...find something that makes you happy.... That makes you feel good... And then stick to it... Be patient and determined... We will always always have your back... To support when you need a gentle push and kick when you are behaving badly... But one way or another we have your back!!!!  

Today you are ONE.. My god! One year with you...already!!  

Well, this is the beginning to an amazing journey.... The three of us are going to have such a fantastic life together..... I promise you that :) 

Have a fantastic day and a super mind blowing year ahead!!! 

Sooooooo much love and sunshine.,,, 
Your mum!! 


I know you will kill me for this picture.,. But one day you will understand that you really are the best gift I ever had!!!! 

Tuesday 18 February 2014

Last year ... today....

Less than a week to the little bumling's first birthday.... A year old!!! 

Oh my god where did this year go?!!

Exactly a year ago today I was going nuts! I knew my date was around the corner... I could feel him kicking around and rolling around nice and good... My tummy was (still is!!) a nice round football!!! 

I was a mad mix of excitement and nerves... I so badly wanted to see him... See what he looked like!  Hold his tiny little body in my arms... Kiss his little cheeks.... Smell his adorable baby smell.... 

But at the same time, I was so scared of his tiny size... I was so worried what kind of a mum I would be... If I would be able to keep him happy and safe... 

I'm sure all new mums are apprehensive about finally meeting the baby.... The bond that they have built in those nine months... You're not sure how it will be once the little one is out with you....

I remember since I was having a c section... I had the choice of getting an epidural and being able to watch the baby come out... So initially I was all rock star about it... But once I was on that operation table... I freaked the hell out!!!!! And begged my doc to knock me out completly....  I was ok not being the first to see him!!! 

By the time they got him to my room... I was going crazy to see him... Everyone else had already seen him... Oh god... It's the most indescribable feeling... When they bring in that tiny little thing wrapped up in fabric with his chotu face and scrunched up eyes... 

It took all of me not to squeeze him with the amount of love I felt for him in those few seconds!!!! 

He was everything I knew he would be.... Super duper adorable and madly lovable!!! Ha ha ha!!! 

No but seriously... Just seeing him... I felt this crazy immense burst of love inside me... I really felt like I couldn't contain it... The happiness of seeing that tiny thing which is all yours... He's literally a part of you... It's mind blowing... 

Now I knew what he looked like... What kind of hair he had... What kind of eyes... I could feel his tiny heart beat when he would sleep on me... It was real..

I had a son..

And here I am today with this little boy... No more an infant no more a newborn... He is now a toddler... !! No more does he stay wrapped in fabric still on a bed.. Nope! Now he runs in his walker... Eats everything I eat... Points at things and people he recognizes... He has reactions and emotions... In fact he has a really bad temper already...!! 

Yup... My little baby is all grown up...

From last year to today.. I have lost all my fears (I'm a great mum!!!) but my excitement to see him grow and become a person of his own, has just doubled!! 


I mean seriously how tiny was he?!!! 


Still sleeps just as cutely!!! 

Thursday 13 February 2014

HaPpy VaLenTinEs DaY!!!!

I'm not majorly into valentines.... It totally depends on my mood really.... Also if Aadi is seeming all the more off of it then I get upset and expect it more!!! 

Typical girl reaction I know!!!

But ya there are times I get all sappy and romantic.... When I think of all the amounts of love I can feel for Aadi... 

Ten years we finish this March,of knowing each other.... That's a lot lot... Hell it's a decade!!! 

And we've had our shares of ups and down and mad times and sad times and we've come out of it ok... 

I always believe that that is purely because our foundation was of friendship... 

Sure there was that epic love story kind of mad passion where we couldn't live with each other's or without... Where every weekend we would break up or make up... I've broken my phone during our fights... Slammed doors... Sworn never to see each other again... But I think what always got us back was this warm fuzzy feeling deep down in our hearts where we just simply loved being together...

The movie dates and breakfast dates... The hours of talking about everything in this world... And the perfect hugs.... 

So there is this one sweater Aadi owns... Which he had worn our first new year eve together... And that night we fought and I broke up with him for nearly four months... It was a bad fight... But god he looked so good in that sweater... And he still does.. He was wearing it the other day and I told him how good he looked it in... But that I couldn't look at it without remembering that awful New Year's Eve night... 

He smiled, opened our bedroom door and showed me my little bumling sleeping in our bed and said... 

'Maybe that first New Years was bad... But look at what we've got since then....!!!!'

A great marriage, a fantastic friendship... And a mind blowing mix of us in an incredible little being....

So love.... It can take it's time and course... A few months a few fights and few kisses... Or it can happen in an instant...

I've experience both with the two most wonderful men in my life... With Aadi it was that great steady strong love that we built over time and with little Sid it was that mad heart wrenching one look is all it takes love....

But both are forever....and ever and ever...




Saturday 8 February 2014

Dear Single Friends....!

Dear Single friends... 

I may, over the course of the next year or two or ten maybe...

Hang up mid conversation....

Not reply on whatsapp...while we were right in the middle of some major gossip session...

Not reply to your email...

Not comment or like your photographs....

Not be able to fully concentrate on your conversation about your new job or boy...

Not be able to chill over a drink....

Not be able to come out at eleven thirty to start partying....

Not be able to go for random coffee dates and shopping sprees...

Yes I might talk a bit too much about my baby...I know the conversations about what he did all day (namely smiling and goo goo and ga ga-ing) may not be entirely of interest to you.. Especially talking about his full diaper!!! It's icky but it's part of a 'normal' conversation for me now...

Having a baby has completly changed my everyday... My mornings, my nights, my work, my choice of drinks, my choice of what to do in my free time....

Drinking all night and partying all night aren't necessarily part of my every weekend ... But I still enjoy going out dancing and drinking just enough to not get home staggering at a odd hour.... 

And while I am out I may call home twice or thrice (and secretly SMS a couple of times) back home to check on him... 

I may even miss him so much I'll start watching his videos on my phone!!

I may choose buying baby stuff over fancy shoes... But that doesn't mean I don't like window shopping as much as the next girl... Or  I may just choose to sleep rather than even go shopping...

But that doesn't mean I have become 'boring' I just choose to do things differently..and that doesn't take away from the fact that I still enjoy having fun...

So let's make a deal... I'll start talking less of the baby when we meet up when you stop making me feel like a 'Oh now she's a mother' type ... 

Because sometimes I feel a bit too overwhelmed suddenly with the responsibilities of a little person... I feel like I'm too young In my head.. Too immature too in prepared...That I hardly need someone pointing it out all the time... 

New jobs new careers new boyfriends ... I've experienced that.. And it's great... Being single and partying every weekend... Done that and loved that... But being a mum... Having a little bumling dependant on me.. That's new.. And scary... 

And I need every cell in my body, every nerve, every muscle tuned in to his needs so that I dont screw up... So forgive me if I'm not your girly girl friend for sometime.. 

Feel free to join me in my fun journey ... But do understand if I take a small break from yours for now :) because I guarantee you, when you get your very own bumling.... You'll know exactly what I'm talking about and you will be glad to have me as your friend then!!! Ha ha ha!!




So much love...





Friday 7 February 2014

PlaY dAteS And DaTEs!!!!

Something about babies meeting babies…. its just too cute!!

The way a one year old looks at a six month old…. and a two year old plays with a one year old it's the sweetest thing…

Sid has had playdates since he was very little and he has loved each one of them!!

With some kids he has taken his time…. with some he has initiated the playing…. some he has just stared at in utter amazement…. he's been bullied by some and some he has bullied some!!!



his first playdate :) with Aman…it was too cute because both had just learned to roll over and thats all the did the whole time!!


his first "date" with Sareena…. this was such a sweet moment!!


With Kabir… each one was amazed by the others daddy… sid loved Shivam's specs and Kabir loved Aad's hair!!


Yuvika and Yash… the amount of attention he got from these girls!!!


Chilling with Agastya…. this was too cute because at this time there was a third little boy in Sanyukta's tummy!!! 


The hooded gang….with Aarav and Aman…
At this playdate there were two more boys and two girls…. !! 


Hiya looking after him in the little car ride!!!


With his super cute older brother Amay!!!
can't wait to go out with Abhay as well… That way Siddy will have one older brother and one younger one!!!


With the munchkin with whom he had his most playdates… Nirvaan!!!
 The first day they met, Nirvaan so adorably kept getting his toys to show bumling…. and for some reason Sid was taken aback!! but after a few days of hanging out… he had sooooo much fun!!!!


The party boys!!!!

We also had a play date with mosho…. at his house and with his fun toys!

We met the cutest little baby girl Ayanna who was hardly a month old and bumling kept trying to pull her socks off while she slept!!!

We also had a fun playdate with two gorgeous baby girls Kiara and Myrah!!! his first kiss was from Myrah!!

And the ever naughty Tristya…. who was fascinated while i changed his diaper!!!! 

What i absolutely love is the varied shapes and sizes the little kids come in!! Cute little rollypolly ones… tall ones…. tiny ones…. bald ones…. ones with crazy curly hair…. small eyes… big cheeks… …. they even come with their own individual personalities….ones that scream and shout... ones that play on their own… ones that don't like sharing their toys… ones that happily offer theirs….!!!

I can't wait to see how many more friends he makes…. and what fun they have…. more like what fun i will have watching them!!!! 


























Tuesday 4 February 2014

A litTle LeSs SunShiNe….

The last few months have been a real roller coaster ride for me emotionally….. I'm making some pretty major changes in my life… for the best i hope… but changes nonetheless….. and its taking a rather taxing toll on my usual sunshine happy core!

Recently i spoke to a friend about it and she said she was going thru something very similar….. and then she said something that really got me thinking.

She told me this:

One day she was joking and laughing with her son and husband

and her husband said to the boy "Look how your Mumma is always laughing"

and he replied

"No Papa, Mumma is sad"

Her two year old little baby was so sensitive to her emotions that he knew she was sad.

It got me thinking, like it got her thinking, how we have to be so careful not to let our babies, not even ones who can't talk yet, see us sad and unhappy. Because even if he can't tell me anything I have noticed recently that when I get sad, bumling does come to me…. and smiles at me or gently knocks his forehead to mine….. He understands…. he can sense that something is bothering me or upsetting me…

And I'm sure the emotion can pass on… I'm sure he could feel sad… and I would never want that.

So from here on… I promise my little baby, that no matter how tough things may seem, I will not let it affect me to an extent that he senses it.

I want him to learn, whatever little he can at this age, that we can get thru it all by not letting our happy cores get touched….

and to you guys who are reading my blog… bear with me a little… i have so much to say… but my days are kinda mad… and I am using my free time to hug my baby or watch tv to shut down my thoughts…. so the blogs may be few and far apart….

But soon the happy space will burst out and things will start being all sunshiny again… and i'll have some fun posts up :)


angry at mumma for pouting...


giving her his stern look



and look… we are smiling again!!!